The Stress Doc Letter
Cybernotes from the Online Psychohumorist (tm)
FEB 2001, No. 1, Sect. 1
Fight when you can
Take flight when you must
Flow like a dream
In the Phoenix we trust!
Table of Contents
Heads Up: Media Exposure and AOL/Digital City Chat
Q & A: Confronting Widespread Dishonesty in the Workplace
Shrink Rap: Building a Bridge Between Grief and Creativity: Five Steps
Main Essay: A Stress Doc Valentine: The Yearly Classic
Readers' Submission: Maintain a Sense of Humor!
1. Media Exposure:
a) Stress Doc on CBS-TV. Only one reported sighting so far of the Stress Doc
on the CBS Workplace Violence Newspath segment in West Palm Beach. Alas, you
likely have to call your local CBS affiliate to find out if and when it may run.
b) And the delightfully absurd media moment: When Peter Demarco of the NY
Daily News calls bright and early after the Super Bowl debacle, asking for grief
tip for NY Giant fans. ;-). Here is the closing paragraph.
Ravens in the Sun: GIANT GLOOM
By PETER DeMARCO
With Jose Martinez and EXPRESS WIRE SERVICES
Antacid sales are usually up 20% the day after the Super Bowl. But for
anguished fans still in need of relief, Mark Gorkin, America Online's
"Online Psychohumorist" and a Queens native, had some advice on
dealing with "Post-Superbowl Trauma Syndrome." "People should
talk about it that's one of the phases of grief," he said,
half-kidding. "After the shock, the next thing is to get angry," he
said. "Express your frustration: 'That Collins, he was like a deer in the
headlights!' You need to let people be a little irrational."
c) HR.com is running a timely Stress Doc essay, Good Grief: Is It Mourning or
Is It Depression? Part I
Click here: HR.com Human Resources Management, Training, Jobs, Information -
Labor & Employee Relations
http://www.hr.com/HRcom/index.cfm (click on Labor Relations Tab on top of
d) Meghan Knierim, Assoc. Editor of the Alexander Hamilton Institute, Inc.,
Employment Law Resource Center, interviewed me for a thoughtful, fast-moving and
timely piece on Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).
Click here: AHI's Employment Law Resource Center - HR Soapbox
Getting Rid Of The Post-Holiday Blues
Now that the craziness of the holiday season is over, you may feel more
relaxed and at ease. I know I was, until I received my first credit card bill.
Suddenly I felt a whole new kind of stress. Add this to the bleakness of winter
days and the freezing temperatures during winter nights, and you've got yourself
a case of the winter blues. But there is a disorder that goes beyond the typical
seasonal blahs affecting many people this time of year and some of them
could be your employees.
Defining SAD Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) takes the winter blues to
the extreme and is classified as a type of major depression. The lack of
sunlight caused by winter's short days and long nights can cause individuals who
have SAD to experience lethargy, fatigue, headaches, problems sleeping, crying
spells, and cravings for sweets and starches. SAD affects one in 20 American
adults and usually begins in adolescence or young adulthood. Approximately 75%
of those affected by SAD are women. Although some people outgrow the disorder,
it could last a lifetime.
SAD Symptoms The signs of SAD are usually experienced only in the winter.
If an individual has been through two annual cycles with the following symptoms
during the winter, he/she may be suffering from SAD.
* Depression; * Loss of energy; * Anxiety; * Irritability; * Headaches; *
Increased sleep;* Loss of interest in sex; * Overeating, especially
* Weight gain; and* Difficulty concentrating.
Have you or someone you know ever experienced SAD? What about the mid-winter
blahs? What are some of the steps you or they took to help brighten those cold
winter days? Click here to share your stories and suggestions.
Combating SAD I recently spoke with the Stress Doc , Mark Gorkin, and
he gave some helpful hints for employers who are faced with employees
* Because light sensitivity plays a role in SAD, provide a well-lit work
environment with plenty of windows.
* Allow employees to get out. Whether it's going out for lunch, exercise, or
for a walk, encourage them to take a brief trip outdoors during the workday.
* Discourage excessive caffeine use. Although some employees look to coffee,
tea, and soda to boost their energy, getting too much caffeine can do just the
* Stay away from painting the office in dim colors if possible. Use bright
colors to brighten employee moods.
* Allow for creativity. Let your employees express themselves by decorating
their offices. This doesn't mean anything goes, however. Be sure to lay ground
rules for what s and is not appropriate.
Mark Gorkin, MSW, LICSW, is the president of "Stress Doc"
Enterprises and is America Online's "Online Psychohumorist." The
Stress Doc is a nationally recognized speaker, training and OD consultant on
conflict and organizational change, and author of "Practice Safe Stress
with the Stress Doc." To find out more about the Stress Doc, visit http://www.stressdoc.com.
For more information on Seasonal Affective Disorder, check out the National
Mental Health Association's fact sheet at http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/27.cfm.
Good luck, stay stress free, and stay legal.
2. Chat Groups and Live Workshops
a) Stop by my AOL/Digital City "Shrink Rap (TM) and Group Chat,"
Tuesdays, 9:30-11pm EST DC Support Chat . It's a dynamic, lively, at times
witty and always warm, thoughtful and supportive problem-solving group. We raise
questions and share our ideas, hopes and experiences with each other.
b) Catch this dynamic one-day Stress Doc Program in Washington, DC. It's
sponsored by the National Assn. of Social Workers-Metro Chapter. Will get you 6
Saturday April 21, 2001
Dynamic Speaking & Workshop Leading, Program Marketing & Internet
Entrepreneuring: "How To" Skills and Strategies
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Stress Doc Work Stress Q & A:
Worforce.com passed along a delicate and complex question from a reader.
Would be interested in any of your problem-solving ideas. Thanks.
Q. I'm a Development Consultant who has been asked to take on a freelance
consulting project. I'm concerned about the issue this prospective client wants
to address. It's dishonesty in their workplace. I've consulted on projects
where dishonesty was seen as a contributing factor to some other problem. In the
end, I think we treated it as an auxiliary issue. In this case, dishonesty is
the focal point. It seems that dishonesty is ravenous in this particular
organization. My charge is to help these folks create a more honest,
trusting, and collaborative workforce.
Honesty and integrity are such intrinsic issues, I'm not sure where to begin
or how to do so without frightening, alienating, or offending people. Thanks.
Confronting Widespread Dishonesty in the Workplace
Pervasive and persistent dishonesty in a system will inevitably grow from a
malignancy to a full-blown cancer destroying an organizations productivity
and morale. As organizational consultants charged with helping to undo the
damage, some key points to consider and to implement:
1. Do a Gut Check. First and foremost, when intervening with
such widespread deceptive and manipulative behavior we must be aware of our own
potential emotional reactions fear, alienation, anger and revulsion.
Also, be prepared to be the target of this mendacity. Make sure you have
someone with whom you can bounce ideas and feelings.
2. Understand the Dynamics. What motivates such wide-ranging
dishonesty? Consider these forces:
a) Top Management as Role Models. Clearly, b.s. easily trickles
down. Has dishonesty payoffs, falsifying records, inflating
productivity numbers, etc. just become business as usual? Is top
management covering up for a friend or ally? If these operational
practices cease will their reign of power end? Even if top management is
not outright dishonest, are they tolerating or closing their eyes to serious
dysfunctional activity from key managers and supervisors? Too often such
leaders dont want to hear "bad news," especially if it reflects on
their performance capability.
b) Climate of Fear. Lying and cheating also flourish in an
atmosphere of intimidation and reprisal, of harsh judgment and ridicule and of
impulsive dismissal. Theres an almost irrational fear of making a
mistake, of not meeting productivity quotas as well as the belief that the
messenger will suffer if giving honest feedback. No one can say the
obvious: the organizational emperors arent wearing any clothes.
So, of course, theres a cover up!
c) Conflict Averse System. Not surprisingly, such organizations
tend to avoid dealing with conflict. People promote false personas such as
being "so nice," "too busy to notice whats going on,"
delegating to others without monitoring performance or holding others
d) Dysfunctional Competition. Sometimes overly aggressive,
territorial individuals and departments foment this institutionalized deceit and
manipulation. Especially, when there are insufficient resources and
rewards to go around, self-serving and self-protective actions can evolve into
chronic backstabbing and sabotage.
3. Plan a Strategic Intervention. Consider these four
a) Management Orientation. Meet with top management to share
your initial approach to data gathering and early stage intervention. (See
following steps.) In this meeting you may not want to directly announce
the problem of widespread dishonesty. Instead, focus on the unproductive
and self-defeating communication, destructive competition, lack of trust and
true cooperation and cohesiveness in the organization along with the dangerously
smoldering tension. Of course, ask the participants to define the nature
and scope of the problem in order to assess how open, self-deluding or defensive
the climate at the top. Whats critical, of course, is that you have
genuine backing for this intervention from someone in the top management
b) Individual Interviews. Have one-on-one interviews with a
substantial number of employees across the organizational
spectrum. Interview enough folks so you can begin to discover the
inconsistencies and cover-ups. Also, see if anyone will acknowledge the
pressure, fear or guilt generated by this dysfunctional situation. Another
source of useful data can come from anonymous questionnaires.
c) Slowly Build Alliances. Use this interview data to form a
small group of potential change agent cohorts; individuals most uncomfortable
with the toxic atmosphere. You may need to meet with these folks more than
once to insure their readiness for this challenging the system and critical
intervention role. (This is similar to needing a number of family members,
friends or colleagues to confront the alcoholic in serious denial. By the
way, dont be surprised if there are serious drug/alcohol problems in the
organization.) In addition, build an alliance with any Employee Assistance
Program counselors, assuming they arent part of the dysfunctional family.
Some of the chronic manipulators or intimidators may have personality disorders,
not to mention drinking issues. Referral of these folks to the EAP will also be
vital to regaining control of the workplace environment.
Two or three intervention groups may be needed, that is, separate groups for
managers and for employees, at this juncture. Later, you can form a matrix
task force jointly comprised of managers, supervisors, employees, union,
etc. These groupings, or the individual members, will eventually become
your core collective for challenging the unhealthy status quo at team,
department and division meetings.
d) Large Group Workshop. Once you have some backup support, hold
a daylong workshop to confront the productivity and morale problems the
problems in straight communication, lack of trust and cooperation, destructive
conflict or avoidance of conflict, etc. For example, my Practice Safe
Stress Programs: Managing Stress and Building Team Morale through Humor
enable participants to open up gradually sensitive operational areas for
constructive discussion and creative group art therapy-like drawing. These
activities, along with subsequent role-play exercises, transform trashing and
griping into dynamic and honest dialogue and problem solving. (Email
email@example.com for my manual on running a Safe Stress Program or for any
An additional benefit of a large group workshop is that substantial numbers
of employees consider mixing all staffing levels here can begin to bond
with and develop trust in your leadership abilities and further open cross-line
communication. (30-50 people/workshop is about the outer size limit for
intimate exercises and problem solving.)
4. Ongoing Team Building. Finally, after the workshop(s), I
would hold meetings with each team. In this small group setting, the
dishonesty issues are really ready to be engaged and confronted. (Sometimes
needed are separate meetings with two or three members of a team who are
entangled in a particularly entrenched and destructive web.)
Also, start recruiting individuals across the hierarchy for a "Save the
Workshop" matrix group. These folks mission will be to insure that
all levels of the organization are engaging in honest communication, effective
dialogue and genuine conflict resolution. And, too, that there are
confidential and objective structures hopefully HR and/or the Employee
Assistance Program -- for reporting violations and grievances.
These steps and strategies will help you and the organization
An online colleague and manager of a Behavioral Health department of a .com
recently encouraged me to submit an article. Alas, just before the piece was
completed the entire division was deleted. Considering the essay covers grief,
creativity and rejuvenation, the irony is palpable. So for N. and all the other
folks caught up in today's downsizing, rightsizing or, my preferred descriptor,
"frightsizing" climate...here's a Valentine to help soothe the mind
while inspiring your heart and soul. To hard work, TLC and more good adventures!
The Stress Doc examines the semantic and psychological, imaginative and
interpersonal connections between grief and creativity. Five dynamic steps
illuminate the forces that trigger, rumble and quake as well as nurture these
parallel and interdependent processes: destruction, suffering, letting go and
wandering, illumination and transformation.
Building a Bridge Between Grief and Creativity
Five Strategic Steps for Expanding Your Horizons
Themes of death and rebirth have been ever-present in art and mythology,
science and religion, that is, in the oral, visual and written history of the
human species. Acknowledging this broad cultural perspective, still, such
universal and seemingly mythic processes of "wandering in (and returning
from) the desert" chastened or emerging enlightened from "the dark
night of the soul" often seem beyond human reach. Can the process of
renewal become more personal, tangible and applicable for our individual
stories? More specifically, can you transform lifes crises and daily battles,
especially key losses and painful transitions, into a psychological and
interpersonal battlefield of your own design? And further, can this angst-driven
arena call forth not just psychological growth but heroic risk-taking and
imaginative problem solving? (Nothing like an understated opening paragraph. ;-)
As this is truly a spiritual undertaking, lets begin with "the
word": When you read "Grief," what words or images come to mind?
Death? Mourning? Crying? Shock? Depression? Dark Cloud? Confusion? Loneliness?
Rage? Fear? Loss? Clearly, all are familiar associations. But what about these
terms: Relief? Release? Exploration? Mental Focus? Contemplation? Conflict?
Future Possibilities? Silver Lining? Discovery? Passion? Rebirth? Wisdom? The
spectrum of responses reflects that grief may well be multifaceted. Surely,
poignant sadness may envelop one when a loved aged parent, a stroke victim these
last few years, finally succumbs. But so may relief.
Akin to the broad concept of "crisis" when a person faces a
critical challenge that defies his or her present capacity for coping or problem
solving, grief is double-edged, fraught with "danger" and
"opportunity." (Actually, these terms symbolize the two Chinese
characters that depict the word crisis.)
Bridging the Emotional-Conceptual Gap
Toward this end, the following essay will open key semantic, psychological
and behavioral windows shedding some light on the life-giving connection between
human loss and individual and/or communal rejuvenation: how to build a bridge
from the exhaustions and eruptions of grief to the mental meanderings and
concentrated convulsions of creativity. Can the crisis and grief processes
intersect forming a tangible and imaginative path more circuitous than
straightforward, for sure to the promised mindscape of milk and honey?
How about envisioning this grief period of exhaustion this time of
seemingly lying fallow as both underground psychic wellspring and richly
stirred emotional soil? And that griefs ultimate purpose, over time, is
regeneration and/or rejuvenation? Can a courageous mix of pain and passion,
persistence and patience nurture the flowering of a fertile mind, cultivate a
sometimes racing yet peaceful heart that ebbs and flows while acknowledging the
soul that dances in the wind with its own natural rhythm? Can the process of
mourning gradually give up a vibrantly alive, colorful and creative spirit and
As I once penned:
Whether the loss is a key person, a desired position or a powerful illusion,
each deserves the respect of a mourning. The pit in the stomach, the clenched
fists and quivering jaw, the anguished sobs prove catalytic in time. In mystical
fashion, like Spring upon Winter, the seeds of dissolution bear fruitful
A key point is that fruitful renewal through grieving not only occurs in
response to literal death but from an array of life and loss experiences. We can
even forge a vital rebirth of community in response to the decay of
organizational integrity or dysfunctional dis-ease. Let me illustrate. Years ago
a department manager was lamenting how her staff seemed to be fighting the
automation of record keeping. The tip of the iceberg was group resistance to a
new administrative form. When this form would run out, employees would return to
the old standard. Verbal exhortation and a stream of memos had not stemmed the
countervailing tide. And like a stormy tide, a tense undercurrent was gathering
After a period of uneasy workplace assessment, in a brainstorming session
with the manager, it was clear that employee input on form design, especially
among those directly effected, had not been solicited. Further discussion
confirmed my suspicion that group resistance and worker slow down had as much to
do with top-heavy implementation as with employee trepidation. Folks were
chafing under a loss of control and feeling like manipulated pawns, if not like
children who should be seen (following orders) and not heard.
An idea popped in my head: "While you may have missed the boat on the
front end, theres opportunity on the back side. Why not plan a forms
funeral?" While perhaps absurd, we went ahead anyway. The frustrated
employees wrote serious and playful eulogies to the old form (and the former
data processing system) while raising both negatives and positives (or, at least
hoped for adaptations) regarding the new. This communal catharsis significantly
assuaged past hurts and strengthened group morale. Our imaginative theater of
the absurd also helped this department bury unilateral decision-making while
resurrecting productivity levels and team cooperation. (I dare say we had a
semantic, if not spiritual, awakening -- discovering that "esprit de
corps" by resurrecting, of course, an "esprit de corpse." ;-)
Using our narrative as a springboard, here are "Five Strategic Steps:
From Grieving and Believing to Creative Conceiving":
1. "Every act of creation is first of all an act of destruction."
Pablo Picasso, the artistic giant, captures the fundamental truth of grief and
creativity. We no longer see life with the fresh eyes of a child. We often
dont notice problems or possibilities until something is broke or unless were
in enough pain. We are blind to our assumptions and habitual coping patterns
(for example, management making unilateral decisions) until throttled by or
shocked into a new reality. And this anxious or frustrating development, such as
protracted overt and covert defiance by employees, can no longer be ignored or
tolerated. Business as usual no longer works.
You must be willing to face the often-painful truth that, for whatever
reasons, your niche of success has turned into a ditch of excess. While
managements change agent tactics may have been misguided, the employees, too,
were clinging to old familiar ways, fighting the uncertain and uncomfortable
path of new learning, productivity and growth. Remember the Stress Docs
burnout axiom: When Mastery times Monotony provides an index of Misery! So how
can one resist premature burial or burnout and rise again or, at least, rekindle
that creative spark?
2. "For the Phoenix to rise from the ashes
destruction or defeat ignites the process of necessary loss, eventually you must
embrace lost dreams, forego dazzling illusions and confront the emptiness within
and the arid or toxic ambiance about. You must forsake the familiar and grapple
with assembling past, present and future pieces of some mysterious puzzle
unfolding before you. What or who will sustain us through this confusion, fear
or heart-wrenching pain?
You need to reach out to others and to find personal energy and space for
raging, sobbing and fretting. (Sometimes you may need to do consulting, for
example, exploring antidepressant medication along with psychiatric counseling.)
Songwriter/singer Carly Simon notwithstanding, you must have time for the pain
for overcoming the loss of the old or for birthing the new. For pure pain and
suffering turns that destructive yet catalytic spark into a life-enhancing
flame. (By the way, did you know that the original meaning of
"passion" is directly related to suffering, as in the Passion Play of
Christ or, more generically, the passion of a martyr? Of course, with a Jewish
mother, I knew this long ago.)
Revitalized by red hot pain, smoldering emotions and images once muted by the
dull gray ash of memory now regain shape crackling sound and flickering
movement in daydreams and nightmares. Lets call it the return of mind- and
heart-thawing light and heat in the cold cavernous psychic darkness. Yet, this
glowing flame can as easily burn you as guide or warm you.
Profoundly acute or prolonged pain shatters or melts our defenses; a parents
death also rekindles the adult childs bygone traces of solitude and
helplessness at the earlier loss of "Grandma," the family pillar. (In
times of dramatic change, employees may recall wistfully "the good old
days.") The hot, salty tears and anguished sobs of memory cultivate passion
and possibility. Clearly, the above images of fire and water reflect two vital
elements for sustaining human life.
Another critical component is allowing courage to win out over shame.
Remember, theres a profound difference between feeling sorry for your self
and feeling your sorrow. When you are feeling sorry for your self you tend to
blame others. When you are feeling your sorrow you are having the courage to
face your true pain. And in times of loss we all need time to embrace our
Finally, a well-deserved inspiring close:
For the Phoenix to rise from the ashes
One must know the pain
To transform the fire to burning desire!
3. Let go and take an "incubation vacation" to hatch a new
perspective." Another gift of dramatic pain is how it compels us to
stop what we are doing. Whether from a sense of helplessness, exhaustion or
spent rage you must let go of the irreplaceable partner, the absolute or
cherished belief or the financial or egotistical symbol of security and pride.
Despite all efforts, the present words on the page or images on the canvas wont
dance; the employees refuse to accept "the obvious" technological
change is here to stay. Throwing a temper tantrum, openly or silently, rarely is
sufficient. Expressing anger passionately and purposefully enables us to move
beyond blind rage. (Initially, though, some rage may be necessary to undo the
paralysis; just as experiencing sadness is often needed to temper the
rage.) Focused anger says, "This is who I am; this is what I need. I
dont like this immediate reality, but how do I make the best of it."
This focused aggression enables you to cut the rope tied to false hopes and
illusions allowing you to envision and explore and, thereby, shape an
unexpectedly pregnant future.
Anguish and anger are necessary sources of energy for breaking out of your
present box (that first destructive step). However, breaking out of the box is
not the same as thinking out of the box. For this you need to hit the wall, let
go and mentally meander. When feeling stuck, take a walk in the woods or
meditate in your garden, listen to Mozart or take a bubble bath. Retreating is
not giving up; quietly accepting anxiety and frustration while on an incubation
vacation allows your subconscious mind to percolate past images and future
symbols. This enriched database allows for more complex shuffling and comparing
along with the crystallizing or distilling of unexpected and meaningful
combinations. In fact, it is in the eerily quiet mindless eye of the psychic
storm, for the moment buffeted from pressures of being torn between taking
direct action and frustrating self-doubt, that you often sight the first light
in the dark clouds. And when your psychic rumblings finally intersect with the
dawning possibilities, when emotional highs and lows are not seen only as signs
of mental instability but as an intrinsic part of the regenerative ebb and flow,
then you are ready for
4. Embracing the "Aha!" moment. There was a frustrating back
and forth period as well as reflective down time before the concept of an open
air "forms funeral" lit up the organizational horizon. The elegant
simplicity of this idea was that it allowed for an organized and safe expression
of anger. This serious-humorous communal offering recognized the profound
connection between the comic and the tragic. As pioneering film genius,
Charlie Chaplin, observed: "The paradoxical thing about making comedy is
that its precisely the tragic which arouses the funny. We have to laugh due
to our helplessness in the face of natural forces and in order not to go
crazy." And when such expression enables others to affirm their importance
and to poke fun with a perceived antagonist for example, by replacing
ridicule with a touch of the ridiculous conflicts now can be resolved and
wounds can begin to heal. The boundary lines between victor and victim fade.
Such a humanizing and integrative process is ultimately cohesive, not divisive.
This "aha" or "haha," in line with Chaplins
observations, allows one to confront a sense of hopelessness: the inability to
contemplate a meaningful, life-sustaining future. Whether its noted
Psychoanalyst, Viktor Frankl, suddenly imagining himself in a warm lecture hall
bearing personal witness to the horrors of the concentration camps or, using a
qualitatively different example, an organization finally being able to conceive
and implement true collaboration between management and employees, this flashing
epiphany forever changes our world view. Perhaps my "aha humor"
inspiration made tangible a connection between abstraction (grief) and action
(forms funeral). Suddenly, there was both a new horizon and a transitional
As the Nobel prize-winning French Algerian writer, Albert Camus, observed:
Once we have accepted the fact of loss we understand that the love done (or
loved procedure or system) obstructed a whole corner of the possible pure now as
a sky washed by rain.
5. Crystallizing a new paradigm and new identity. Now is the time
of the poet warrior. The person who does not just "walk the talk" but
one who will "fight for the light." The illuminating moment by nature
is evanescent. One must sustain courage and efforts for the final stage of
transformation and consolidation. Some will be skeptical; you will need to take
risks, for example, finally submitting your poetry or short stories to a
magazine or forming an ongoing consultation, if not decision-making, matrix
group comprised of management and employees. The reins of control must be
loosened; power must be shared.
But perhaps the biggest risk is fully embracing the change in your identity:
no longer being a couple; no longer running a hierarchical department; having to
accept the role of writer with both hard-earned, pride-building rewards and its
role responsibilities to keep going back into the trenches for daily combat
with ideas and images, sounds and rhythms. And if determined to be reborn, if
committed to expressing your genuine individuality and essence, then the always
demanding yet ultimately fulfilling grief to creativity path less taken is yours
At this point, these strategic steps, "The Six Fs for Embracing
Loss and Channeling Change" may well seem axiomatic:
1. Shaking or breaking up life's puzzle; letting go of a familiar
2. Confronting and channeling the anxiety of an unpredictable future,
3. Grappling with a loss of identity and integrity, with a loss of
self-esteem and pride...with a loss of face,
4. Exploring and generating new resources -- environmental,
informational and psychological -- for evolving a new focus,
5. Seeking and being open to feedback, both challenging and
affirming, such as a variety of TLC -- "tough loving care" as well as
"tender loving criticism" -- throughout the grief and rejuvenation
6. Trusting in higher power faith, from a belief in a
transcendental power to the synergy and confidence instilled by participating in
a vital team process, support group or counseling/coaching relationship.
And a final encouraging passage:
Remember, errors of judgment or design rarely consigns one to incompetence;
they more likely reveal inexperience or immaturity, perhaps even boldness. Our
so-called failures can be channeled as guiding streams (sometimes raging rivers)
of opportunity and experience that ultimately enrich widen and deepen
the risk-taking passage. If we can just immerse ourselves in these unpredictable
yet, ultimately, regenerative waters.
Surely words to gain a "whole corner of the possible" and also to
(c) Mark Gorkin 2000
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