The Stress Doc Letter
Cybernotes from the Online Psychohumorist (tm)
OCT 2001, No. 1
Fight when you can
Take flight when you must
Flow like a dream
In the Phoenix we trust!
Table of Contents
(Ed. Note: The entire newsletter is also a Word attachment, including
reader's humor section.)
Heads Up: NASW; AOL/Digital City Chat
Stress Doc Q & A: The Epidemic of Workplace Cybersex
Main Essay: Getting Beyond The Box: Part II
Reader Submission: Mens Thesaurus
1. Media Exposure:
a) Winds of War and Crisis Intervention Tips continue to appear in numerous
online publications, including the Metro, DC and Nebraska Newsletters and in a
variety of Employee Assistance Program publications. Thank you all for your
b) HR.com published "Take a Stress Brake with the Stress Doc," the
audiostream script for the major software company, SAS' international sales
staff (Email me for a copy). Still waiting to hear if we will go back into
(Email email@example.com if you'd like to publish any essays, past or
present, in your online or offline publication.)
2. Chat Group and Live Workshops
a) Stop by my AOL/Digital City Shrink Rap (TM) and Group Chat DC Support
Chat, Tuesdays, 9:30-11pm EST DC Support Chat. It's a dynamic, lively, at times
witty and always warm, thoughtful and supportive problem-solving group. We raise
questions and share our ideas, hopes and experiences with each other.
Stress Doc Q & A: Work Stress
The Epidemic of Workplace Cybersex
(Ed. Note: This Q & A was originally written for WorkforceOnline)
Q. In several of my work experiences, I have found problems arising from
Internet use. Many of the men (including owners and supervisors) in these
companies spend time viewing pornographic pictures, etc., while at work. When
employees walk into their office, they can't help but see what is on the screen.
I know this falls under the sexual harassment laws and is illegal -- but that
does not help. It makes people feel uncomfortable; but they are afraid to
complain. If one does complain -- they will be singled out as troublemakers. I
know all the whistleblower laws - but the reality of it is -- your job can be in
jeopardy or just miserable if anything is said. These are the owners and
supervisors -- so there is no one above them to go to. I left my previous
employment, because it was uncomfortable - but guess what -- it is in my new job
too. Is this an epidemic? Ideas? Please keep this confidential. Thank you.
A. Cybersex at work is a big problem; perhaps epidemic is not an exaggerated
description. It is believed that there are over 70,000 commercial porn sites and
major sex sites collectively get 150-200 million hits/day. And, big surprise,
the US is the top porn-surfing nation. More to your concern, 1 in 5 web surfers
(mostly males) visit cybersex sites while at work and the majority of all
cybersex occurs during the 9-5 workday. (And I suspect folks are not just having
a "quickie" during their lunch break.)
Easy Does It
Being anonymous, accessible and affordable greatly explains the popularity of
cybersex. It provides low risk, physical and emotional excitement, distraction
or psychic numbing. And it's fairly easy to rationalize: no one's getting hurt
and it's not really sex. (Don't ask how many emails I've received from readers'
heartbroken over the demise of a virtual relationship. Don't ask about the
salesman who started an online affair that "progressed" to several
face-to-face clandestine encounters over several months. When the woman's
husband discovered the affair, she abruptly ended the liaison. And I was left
fielding a call from a shaken father asking to provide emergency counseling for
his now near-suicidal son. For now, let's not even mention the state of the
desperate son's wife and children.)
For many, once started cybersex exploration and participation rapidly
escalates in amount and variety. This disturbing development is especially true
for individuals with an addiction, a compulsion or an impulse control problem.
These medically and/or psychologically troubled individuals:
a) are consumed with intense imagery that can't be blocked out from their
b) transform the computer into a sexual instrument, a object of craving,
c) are susceptible to relationship-regression, including isolation,
trance-like states, emotional withdrawal from real relationships accompanied by
preoccupation with e-cohorts and
d) are spending more and more time on the Internet and cannot quit or
regulate their dysfunctional behavior.
What to Do
Obviously, top management and HR need to establish strong, clear policies
that any form of cybersex activity is illegal; it constitutes a form of sexual
harassment and contributes to a hostile work environment. As you clearly note,
it is not a private issue in the workplace. Management must also insure that
everyone knows the policies and that they will be enforced fairly and swiftly.
Enforcement may require an independent computer expert to do data collection.
With sufficient reliable data, then a regular misconduct investigation follows.
Remember, cybersex needs to be viewed as any other form of serious misconduct -
drinking at work, theft, and threats of violence. Management needs to separate
out personal feelings or moral judgments for the actionable offense in order to
investigate and, if necessary, discipline and sanction objectively.
Clearly, if your management is one of the offending parties, becoming a
whistleblower is a risky proposition. Still, the government's EEO Commission
exists to respond to such grievances. Clearly, if other colleagues are also
angry about this situation, there can be strength in numbers; even collectively
hiring an attorney is an option. If you believe there are no actions you are
prepared to take and there is no recourse with your HR Department (assuming your
company has one) or anywhere else, alas, I would recommend looking for new
employment. Such a work environment is toxic, and this company will never work
to its peak capacity. The ambience will ultimately drain you of energy,
productivity, morale and, even, self-esteem.
One lesson for the future search: Raise the cybersex issue. Interview or
informally talk with employees of a prospective company, not just with HR, a
supervisor or with management, before taking your next position. As we are
learning more and more since that fateful and horrific September day, we no
longer have the luxury of being innocent, isolated or uninformed. A vital
philosophic perspective for helping us all
Practice Safe Stress!
Getting Beyond the Box
Face Your FOE and Flow from the Inside Out
Successful policies, programs and procedures are often time-tested, if not
timeworn, techniques for keeping folks stifled and the status quo exalted.
However, unconventional thinking and exploring involves more than discovering
the elusive key to some mysterious trap door, or simply breaking down the same.
Opening up new doors and windows of opportunity often starts by recognizing
self-imposed, shame-based constrictions accompanied by a fear of failure. A
second key catalyst for breaking out thinking is learning to ebb and flow
creatively with your mood states. And once more free with inner space travel,
you can adroitly maneuver from the inside out and transform external energy into
problem-solving synergy. Here are the three final strategies for getting beyond
1a. Confront Your Intimate FOE: Fear of Exposure (Internal Variety). Actually,
mid-forties anguish involved me getting into the box, that is, grappling with a
global fear of technology and, more specifically, a fear of losing my
"computer virginity." (I was still having a fling with a fifteen
year-old -- my Smith-Corona electric typewriter.) These dysfunctional roots go
back to childhood: classic math phobia. Two of the more vivid memories are the
shame of having my test score of "0" announced to the entire fifth
grade class and foregoing shop class for weekly remedial mathematics in seventh
grade. (The only other students having this mandatory remediation were from the
With hindsight, the true culprits for my academic underachievement were some
form of chronic high anxiety, if not some borderline childhood depression. The
resulting cognitive immaturity was evidenced by a significantly impaired
capacity for sustained concentration and retention involving analytical and
logical tasks. Lack of confidence and learned helplessness were the final bars
for this cognitive "prisoner of childhood." (See Judith Miller's
excellent work, The Drama of the Gifted Child and the Search for the True Self,
formerly main titled, The Prisoner of Childhood.)
Making it through a graduate statistics class was my "Survivor"
experience; getting past basic training was almost a breeze by comparison.
(Okay, as a Jew, being tear-gassed in a gas chamber created some existential
angst). But truly getting beyond my technology-related mental block required
some inadvertent group shaming almost two decades later. The catalyst was
hanging out in a support group for artists. Many of these folks were exploring
computer graphics. Each week as they brought in their digital designs the
digital divide was becoming a chasm. The time and technology warp kept
expanding. It was the early '90s, but I felt like a dinosaur trapped in some
long gone paleontological era. (Yet, also knocking on my psychic door were late
20th century technological reality and some healthy competitive feelings.)
Fortunately, sometimes a little shame can work wonders. Clearly, deep-seated
phobic patterns and fear of renewed humiliation rather than any objective
computer learning barriers were the real source of this imprisonment. To grow
out of my box, not to stagnate professionally and artistically, there was no
alternative to walking into the old demons den. But now, no longer shrouded in
shameful secrecy nor paralyzed by fear, I did not have to walk alone. At the end
of a stress workshop, an out of work computer consultant approached me about a
personal matter. Fortunately, the opportunity was obvious and in a matter of
minutes she and I negotiated a "be gentle with this neurotic neophyte when
it comes to computers" coaching relationship. Miss Florence Bytetingale
held my hand as we bought the PC; she also installed the system. And she tended
to my psychic wounds as I trudged along this arduous learning path -- more a
mountain than a curve. Initially, we met two or three times/week. Doubtless, the
money spent on coaching was far less than the anticipated therapy fees for
treating a dysfunctional dinosaur.
1b. Confront Your Intimate FOE: Fear of Exposure (External Variety). Of
course, your FOE isn't only inside your head. With terrorism unleashed -- from
guided missiles to floating anthrax spores -- there are objective, external
reasons to be fearful. Some will rationalize retreating into an even tighter
fortress (forget about a box). Alas, such a "comfort zone" is likely
to become more constricted than comfortable when the ever-present motive is the
illusion of always being in control.
Before sealing that symbolic vault door, consider the distinction between
"what's possible?" and "what's probable?" Prior to the
Tuesday, 9-11 terrorist attack, I had made mid-September plans to visit my
family in New York City for the Jewish holidays. Then the horror descended.
Normally, I AMTRAK to the Big Apple. With reports of bomb scares at Penn Station
Thursday night (the possible) I called my folks and asked them to listen to the
news. They would call me Friday morning in the event of an actual bomb attack or
genuine threat (the probable). With no cautionary word from the home front, I
was homeward bound.
Sure I had some butterflies. Bur if we instinctively allow whatever is
"possible" to rule our thinking and actions then life can truly become
contaminated by primal fears, terrorists or no terrorists. Of course, those who
have experienced previous trauma or abuse will have to grapple with both
internal and external FOEs. But all it takes is a vividly anxious imagination;
then, almost any dire or devious outcome is conceivable. Assessing the
"probable," which may involve both rational calculation and gut
intuition, strengthens a trust in our inner compass and enhances our degrees of
freedom. Not to mention the unexpected perks for: first, because of the death of
pasengers, when I purchased my ticket the AMTRAK ticket agent practically hugged
and kissed (he was cute ;-); second, I just about had a whole car to myself; no
annoyingly loud cell phone conversations to contend with.
To be honest, the entire trip wasn't entirely smooth sailing. There was a
dicey moment at Penn Station. I had just boarded the subway to Queens, when the
engineer barks out the prophetic opening line, "Now don't panic..."
followed by some mundane announcement with no safety relevance. Of course,
people were turning ghastly pale from his opening remarks. Don't panic!
Fortunately, the survivor spirit is alive and well in the New York subway
ridership. A bunch of us stormed the lead car and beat the crap out of that
jerk. Okay, the last sentence was only a fantasy. Hey, sometimes it can be
enjoyable contemplating a "possible" scenario, especially when you
aren't the helpless pawn.
So despite that high adrenaline moment, by quickly following the "what's
probable?" path, some stress inoculation resulted (before withdrawal or
bunker coping patterns set in) by approaching "Ground Zero." I feel
less like a stalking victim of the Intimate FOEs.
Drawing upon these vignettes, some concluding strategic steps for overcoming
your FOE and breaking out:
a) acknowledge past phobic patterns, depression and sources of shame;
consider some therapy if these past emotions/conditions are seemingly
subconsciously locked away (yet another box to break out of) while still ruling
b) associate with folks who might challenge your unthinking habits, anxieties
and assumptions and may motivate exploration or, if needed, will give you a push
out of the box,
c) find a formal or informal coach to defuse the shame and anxiety and guide
you through a learning curve of new concepts and problem solving skills,
d) in general, evaluate risky or dangerous situations though the
rational-intuitive lens of "what's probable?" rather than the
reflexive or reactive lens of "what's possible?" and
e) consider my risk-taking mantra: "Awareily jump in over your
head"...then head for the old and new demons' den. Definitely some
strategic steps for surviving these trying times.
2. Allow for Mood Swings. As observers of the subject of creativity have
noted (e.g., see Kay Redfield Jamison's, Touched with Fire: Manic-Depressive
Illness and the Artistic Temperament) artistic individuals often ebb and flow
between mania and melancholy. Now a hypomanic state may seem obvious: increased
energy, daring, restlessness and even some enhanced cognitive capacity for
rhyming and uncommon relating of words and ideas all support breaking out from a
habitual or predictable mindset. But what of melancholy? Doesn't a depressed
mood make you slow, lethargic, heavy and slug-like? Wouldn't such a dark state
induce inertia more than the drive to innovate?
It's true, in the darkest depths of depression, paralysis and pessimism, if
not paranoia, as the walls suffocatingly close in, commandeer the controls of
the box. However, there are grades of depression. If we can begin to stick our
head out of the black hole, then some paradoxically illuminating depressive
energy can be channeled into liberating and enlightening grief. As the storied
author, Herman Melville poetically observed: In these flashing revelations of
grief's wonderful fire, we see all things as they are; and though, when the
electric element is gone, the shadows once more descend, and the false outlines
of objects again return; yet not with their former power to deceive.
Sometimes there is only energy for quiet meditation or for a walk in the
woods, perhaps free associative scribbling in a journal or for a moment of
prayer. Listening to our inner voice enables:
a) the sorting out of rage (and it's cover for helplessness and low
self-esteem; rage turned inward often contributes to depression and
self-destructive behavior) from passion (with it's conviction and determination
to affirm a vital, empowered sense of self-in-the-world). Ultimately, a rage
state has us narrowly focused and dependent; all our energy is tied up with
"the other." It's not called "blind rage" for nothing, and
b) the process of "thrustration," a key aspect of creative insight
and discovery. Thrustration occurs when you are torn between thrusting ahead
with direct action and frustration as you have not found nor connected key
pieces of the puzzle engaging your being. This requires a capacity for
frustration tolerance, for brooding, for letting go of simply willpowering an
uncommon solution. This moody, quietly intense state of psychophysiological
arousal turns on your brain's right hemisphere, enhances the vividness of dream
imagery and momentarily stimulates emotive primary process thinking over logical
or sequential processing.
Imagine this moody, brooding period as an on the edge incubation vacation.
The purpose, of course, is to hatch a new perspective. And sometimes, this
perspective is the courage and conviction to sustain the problem-solving brain
storm. For example, let me share an early '90s struggle when my five year
younger brother moved nearby in the DC area. An unspoken rivalry hovered like a
cloud between us. I certainly was conscious of his obtaining a Ph.D. while I had
bombed out on my doctoral dissertation. And his being more successful
financially also weighed on my psyche. Add to this bad timing: my trepidation
confronting the aforementioned computer phobia. Welcome to the brooding edge. In
hindsight, I was on the verge of a major transitional period. Enduring big
change, itself, exaggerates one's emotions and mood state. A week into my stormy
incubation there was a sea change -- some light in the darkness and calm in the
despair, then excitement and hope: my virgin status was history. (Of course, my
break through didn't eradicate periodic bouts of performance anxiety.) All was
captured in the ironical lyric, Double-Edged Depression:
Waves of sadness, raging river of fear
Whirlpooling madness till I disappear
Into the depths of primal pain...
Then again, no pain, no gain.
Is it chemistry or confession?
Dark side of perfection!
Climbing icy spires, dancing at the ledge
The phoenix only rises on the jagged edge
In a world of highs and lows...
Hey the cosmos ebbs and flows.
It's electrifried obsession
So I'm pumping iron and Prozac, too
What else can a real man do?
In a life of muted dreams...
How about a primal SCREAM?
Even inner child rejection
Hallelujah for creative expression!
(c) Mark Gorkin 1994
Shrink Rap Productions
Now I had the energy (along with coaching support) to continue my climb out
of the computer box. And, prophetically, six months after writing this lyric, I
threw off the psychic albatross of shame and failure by allowing my therapist to
talk me into beginning a trail with Prozac. Talk about finally breaking out of
the depression box.
In conclusion, we must risk moving out of our so-called comfort zone and
incubate upon our "sturm und drang" in order to embrace philosopher
Albert Camus' notion of the life-giving potential of loss and, even, death: Once
we have accepted the fact of loss we understand that the loved one obstructed a
whole corner of the possible pure now as a sky washed by rain.
Here are the Stress Doc's "Six Strategic 'F's for Mastering Loss and
1) Familiar. Grapple with the anxiety, rage, hopelessness or sadness in
letting go of the familiar or predictable past. Remember, sometimes your former
niche of success now mostly has you stuck in the ditch of excess. There's a
critical crossroad ahead,
2) Future. Clearly the horizon appears cloudy and threatening, lacking
direction and clarity. Just because your past or traditional roles and
responsibilities may be receding doesn't mean you can't transfer your experience
and skills into new challenging arenas,
3) Face. Some loss of self-esteem and self-worth is all too common,
especially when our life puzzle has been broken up other than by one's own hand.
Shame, humiliation, guilt, diminished confidence are frequent early traveling
partners on a profound transitional journey,
4) Focus. If you can honestly grapple and grieve the first three "F"s,
then you are engaged in a productive brooding, if not magical incubation,
process. At minimum, you will affirm, "I may not like the cards that have
been dealt, but how do I make the best of my reality right now." And you'll
likely start hatching a new perspective with, if not crystal clear targets, then
an intuitive, crystal ball enlightenment. Suddenly this Stress Doc mantra starts
resonating: "I don't know where I'm going...I just think I know how to get
5) Feedback. Now you can share new insights or plans with others. Getting
input will help sort out the wheat from the chaff. Or, some TLC (what I call,
"tender loving criticism" and "tough loving care") may
challenge you to expand or simplify the complexity of the problem engaged. In
times of rapid or daunting change, trustworthy feedback helps us remember who we
are; that our basic, core self remains intact despite being shaken by unsettling
6) Faith. Having the courage to grapple with these "F"s now yields
a strength to understand what in your present life rests in your control and
what lies beyond. Some will call on a transcendent source of faith: a higher
power, whether a religious or spiritual force or the group synergy of a team,
family or some communal entity. (For example, 12-step groups provide both
sources -- turning over one's helplessness to God and, one day at a time, being
supported in new beliefs and behaviors by the higher power of collective
consciousness and group sharing.)
3. Be Acutely Responsive to Your Environment. As a conference speaker,
one is frequently challenged to move outside the box; often it's the
"lunch" box. After a big meal, participants either halfheartedly focus
on the luncheon speaker or drowsily meander into the next workshop room. The
quandary: how to quickly engage the attentionally-challenged masses? First rule,
don't fight the ebb tide. Start slow, deliver a surprising blow...now, go with
the flow! Let me get practical. Initially, I ask the group if I'm the only
person who feels sleepy or has a big meal energy dip or just post-lunch
lethargy? The sighs and nodding heads mean we've connected. People are willing
to learn my brief relaxation/meditation exercise. They close their eyes, assume
a relaxed posture, take a couple of deep breaths. Then folks are directed to
extend their arms fully in front of them. They also wiggle their fingers, better
to connect with the karmic energy in the universe. (I also remind them to watch
where they wiggle those digits. HR policies on inappropriate touching are still
in effect. ;-) Now I direct a responsive repetition of a homegrown mantra:
"N-A-P, N-A-P, N-A-P." And suddenly I playfully, yet aggressively,
declare: "Okay, now that you've had your power nap, no sleeping. Everybody
The laughter is the energetic icing on the low-fat oat bran muffin. Having
folks do a series of gentle, rhythmic, physical movements, then be hit with a
clever surprise is like providing the psyche and soma a soothing and stimulating
massage. Perhaps we can call this mind-body group judo move a hypnohumor
manipulation. (I'm already the "Online Psychohumorist" (TM); why not
add Hypnohumorist to my job titles.) Whatever we call it, the exchange uses
liberating laughter to get the speaker and audience out of the lethargy lunch
Conceiving through Humor
Sometimes humor is needed just to get a shot at doing a program. In the
mid-'80s, just as the AIDs crisis was becoming part of our national
consciousness (as Anthrax is today) a legal administrator from a litigation law
firm called. She wanted to know if I could do a stress workshop for thirty trial
attorneys. Before I could assure her on the wisdom of her selection, she
delivered a stern warning: The previous year's retreat facilitator had a
"let it all hang out" approach. Big surprise, the retreat turned into
a rout. Ms. Administrator let me know that with such a repeat performance her
derriere was on the line with the Executive Committee. Affirming my experience
and success was having little effect upon her state of hypervigilance.
Frustration was building, being logical proved ineffectual, then (after a mini
thrustration-incubation process)...the Aha! humor moment: "I know what you
want. You want to make sure these legal warriors don't kill one another off. You
want a workshop on..."How to Practice Safe Stress!"
Burst out laughter immediately ensued. Someone who could rapidly inject
pointed yet good-natured humor likely wouldn't be so fanatical. Her anxiety box
was broken, and she had the retreat leader candidate. Alas, the Executive
Committee was still in their control box. When we finally reconnected, the
administrator's disappointing sigh spoke volumes. Management decided not just to
play it "safe" but to practice abstinence: the upcoming retreat was to
be on computer training.
Returning to our theme, recognizing people's mood state -- lethargy and
anxiety -- along with the immediate situational (post-lunch) context or the
hovering national crisis consciousness (AIDS epidemic) challenged me to come up
with a response that incorporated the seemingly disparate elements. As 19th
century pioneering educator John Dewy observed: Conflict is the gadfly of
thought. It stirs us to observation and memory. It instigates to invention and
sets us at noting and contriving...Conflict is the sine qua non of reflection
Both the sudden surprising relaxation exercise and the witty phone rejoinder
evoked laughter and a willingness to follow or consider my lead. As I once
penned in, "On Becoming a Psychohumorist": "People are more open
to a serious message when it's gift-wrapped with humor." Modeling
playfulness as well as conviction and cognitive flexibility encourages people to
expand their energy and optimism, venture beyond the routine, be resilient after
a setback and confront those inner and outer barriers keeping them boxed in.
In closing this two-part series, three more beyond the box strategies have
been illustrated: 4) Confront Your Intimate FOE, 5) Allow for Mood Swings and 6)
Be Acutely Responsive to Your Environment. Integrating these three strategies
with the "lean and keen" maneuvers in Part I -- 1) Embrace
Contradiction, 2) Reframe the Content and Context and 3) Find the Pass in the
Impasse -- will conceptually liberate you and your clients or customers or
family and friends and will help us all...Practice Safe Stress!
Subj: Men's Thesaurus
"I'M GOING FISHING"
Means: "I'm going to drink myself dangerously stupid, and stand by a
stream with a stick in my hand, while the fish swim by in complete safety."
IT'S A GUY THING"
Means: "There is no rational thought pattern connected with it, and you
have no chance at all of making it logical".
"CAN I HELP WITH DINNER?"
Means: "Why isn't it already on the table?"
"UH HUH," "SURE, HONEY," OR "YES, DEAR..."
Means: Absolutely nothing. It's a conditioned response.
"IT WOULD TAKE TOO LONG TO EXPLAIN"
Means: "I have no idea how it works."
"I WAS LISTENING TO YOU. IT'S JUST THAT I HAVE THINGS ON MY MIND."
Means: "I was wondering if that redhead over there is wearing a
"TAKE A BREAK HONEY, YOU'RE WORKING TOO HARD".
Means: "I can't hear the game over the vacuum cleaner."
"THAT'S INTERESTING, DEAR."
Means: "Are you still talking?"
"YOU KNOW HOW BAD MY MEMORY IS."
Means: "I remember the theme song to 'F Troop', the address of the first
I ever kissed, and the vehicle identification numbers of every car I've ever
owned, but I forgot your birthday."
"I WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT YOU, AND GOT YOU THESE ROSES".
Means: "The girl selling them on the corner was a real babe."
"OH, DON'T FUSS, I JUST CUT MYSELF, IT'S NO BIG DEAL."
Means: "I have actually severed a limb, but will bleed to death before I
admit that I'm hurt."
"HEY, I'VE GOT MY REASONS FOR WHAT I'M DOING".
Means: "And I sure hope I think of some pretty soon."
"I CAN'T FIND IT."
Means: "It didn't fall into my outstretched hands, so I'm completely
"WHAT DID I DO THIS TIME?"
Means: "What did you catch me at?"
"I HEARD YOU !"
Means: "I haven't the foggiest clue what you just said, and am hoping
desperately that I can fake it well enough so that you don't spend the next 3
days yelling at me."
"YOU KNOW I COULD NEVER LOVE ANYONE ELSE."
Means: "I am used to the way you yell at me, and realize it could be
"YOU LOOK TERRIFIC."
Means: "Please don't try on one more outfit, I'm starving."
"I'M NOT LOST. I KNOW EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE."
Means: "No one will ever see us alive again."
"WE SHARE THE HOUSEWORK."
Means: "I make the messes, she cleans them up."
Mark Gorkin, LICSW, "The Stress Doc" , is an internationally
recognized speaker and syndicated writer on stress, anger management,
reorganizational change, team building and HUMOR! The Doc was recently featured
on CBS TV's Newspath segment -- Workplace Violence -- and in Biography Magazine.
He is America Online's "Online Psychohumorist" leading a chat
group for AOL/Digital City --http://www.digitalcity.com/washington/stressdr .
Check out his USA Today Online HotSite - www.stressdoc.com. For more info, email
firstname.lastname@example.org or call 202-232-8662.
(c) Mark Gorkin 2001
Shrink Rap Productions