The Stress Doc Letter
Cybernotes from the Online Psychohumorist ™
FEB 03, Sec. I
Happy New Year!
Fight when you can
Take flight when you must
In the Phoenix we trust!
Table of Contents
Training Kit & Book; AOL Chat
Work Q & A: Workplace Racism???
Rap: Stress Doc Website: A Window to My Soul, A Portal for the World
Essay: Stress Doc's ™ Tips for Becoming a Healing Humorist
Famous Sex Quotes, The Tell Tale Parrot, Bumper Stickers
Book Review, Radio Interview, Hong Kong Civil Service Training and
Development Institute, Forty +
Essay (Sec. II): Love Online: Reality
1. Training/Marketing Kit: Want to strengthen your ability to lead or
market a stress workshop or any kind of speaking/training program? Consider the Stress Doc
Training/Marketing Kit, which includes both "how to" manual and articles and the
opportunity for phone coaching. For more info: Training/Marketing Kit or email.
Stress Doc Book:
From Stress Brakes and Shrink Rap to Safe Stress and Cool Moon Cats:
Wit and Wisdom of the Stress Doc, Stress Doc Enterprises, 1995
A 90 page
compilation of my former syndicated radio essays, pioneering songs in the field of psychologically
humorous rap music - "Shrink Rap" Productions - a creative visualization poem and
other humorous lyrics/poems. "Stress Brake" radio essays are short (300 words),
fast-paced and witty, covering such topics as stress, burnout, anger and conflict resolution, time
management, creativity, men's and women's issues, romantic relationships, codependency, etc. (They
make excellent fillers for newsletters.)
Price: $20 (which covers priority postage
Make check payable to: Mark Gorkin
Send check to:
Stress Doc Enterprises
1616 18th Street, NW #312
Washington, DC 20009-2542
3. Chat Group:
Stop by my
AOL/Digital City Shrink Rap (TM) and Group Chat DC
Support Chat, Tuesdays, 9:30-11pm EST DC Support Chat. It's a dynamic, lively, at times witty
and always warm, thoughtful and supportive problem-solving group. We raise questions and share our
ideas, hopes and experiences with each other.
Stress Q & A:
I have a question. I am the social
worker for a small nonprofit. Every time a white co worker sees a black co worker, she
"complements" her wardrobe. This complement is laced with nicknames like, "Miss
Cleo, Gypsy, Cowboy, Devil with a blue dress on. I know this embarrasses my fellow employee.
As an observer, I need advice on how or if I should address this issue. I have tried to
interject humor in an attempt to have her become more aware of her comments. No success, only
defensiveness. Thank you!!!
Editor's Note: This
essay was written for The Bright Side www.the-bright-side.org, a multi-award winning resource
for professionals and consumers concerned about mental/allied health issues, interventions and
productive collaborations. I am a member of the Advisory Board for TBS.
The Stress Doc Website: A
Window to My Soul, A Portal for the World
Okay, if I were totally honest I'd start this
article thusly: "Love Me, Love My Website!" However, I'll try to resist my
DSM-IV, 301.81 tendencies…you know, Narcissistic Personality Disorder. But truly, the growth
of my baby in seven years is directly responsible for an unimaginable expansion and visible presence
of Stress Doc Enterprises in the US and across the globe.
Reflecting on his evolving
role as a humorist, "The Stress Doc" first captures the essence of healing humor.
Next he identifies a variety of skills and strategies that can enable you to inject harmonizing and
healing humor into a variety of social/professional transactions.
Doc's ™ Tips for Becoming a Healing Humorist
Heads Up: Media/Speaking Activity
1. Book Review
An uncommon book by a
friend and collegue; a book that has been incubating for a lifetime. Read on!
Waves and Currents
(What Women Wish Men Wouldn't Do)
By E.L. Pace
Click here: Tin Hare Productions:Fantasy Fiction,
Children's Music, Inspirational Music, Screenplays & more! http://www.tinhareproductions.com/
Waves takes a passionate and provocative look at the visible, seemingly serene (from a distance) yet
powerfully moving, if not churning, physical and physiological, psychological and socio-cultural
forces that bring, if not throw, men and women together...whether they're ready or not to swim in
tandem. At the same time, the book explores the underlying conjugal currents and transitional
tides that if not recognized and negotiated can: a) have couples treading water, going
nowhere, still breathing but barely, b) overtime erode the seemingly stable marital mooring or
intimate relationship and c) violently overthrow and suck the mind-body-spiritual health if not air
and life out of one or both parties. And as the author vividly illustrates, women are the more
endangered swimmers. The book especially challenges us to take a clear-eyed look at the
dysfunctional storms and destructive fury of men in a society still, too often, pushed and pulled by
a mindless and relentless patriarchy.
Such a "cutting edge" book could only come
from the head, heart and flailing arms of a true survivor of the marital "sturm und drang."
And not just a survivor: Ms. Pace's roles range from singer-songwriter to mother, workshop
leader and horse farmer. With an ocean/battlefront perspective, Laurie delivers serious
commentary and a playful, sometimes outrageous style of humor that helps us laugh at life's
absurdities while surmounting its tragedies. Consider this book and its "over the
top" survival strategies your life jacket. Sexual Waves will make waves; and it needs to
become a smashing success!
2. Stress Doc Internet Radio Interview
through your computer to Mark Gorkin, "The Stress Doc", on Jacqueline Marcell's
Internet radio program, "Coping with Caregiving," discussing "Managing Stress with
Click here: wsRadio.com The World Wide Leader in
Recent Archives. (Listen via a free download: Windows Media Player, available at the bottom of the
3. Article Reprint in Hong Kong Civil Service Training and Development
Dear Mark, I am writing to
seek for your permission to post another article, Stress Doc's "Top Ten" Stress Tips,
in our website. We will have stress management as our main theme in the coming monthly update.
I look forward to your favorable reply. Thank you and wish you a prosperous new year!
Training Officer, Senior Management Development Unit
Civil Service Training and
5/F North Point Government Offices
333 Java Road, North Point
Phone : (852) 2231-4057
Fax : (852)
Website : www.info.gov.hk/cstdi
Upcoming Program for Forty +
Click here: Speaker for Febrary
classic essay regarding love online: the quest for discerning what's real, what's virtual?
To an adventurous Valentines. Enjoy!
Love Online: Reality vs. "Romantasy"
of Valentine's, I shall address a simple, yet provocative question: Can you have real love on-line?
Rules: I will respond to this question as if the parties have never met in person, perhaps have
talked on the phone, but their primary mode of communication are emails and IMs. And the issue is
whether true intimate romantic love can evolve primarily online.
Gorkin, LICSW, "The Stress Doc" ™, a psychotherapist, an international speaker and syndicated writer, was
recently interviewed on BBC radio. The Doc is now a "Motivational Humorist" for The
DC Improv Comedy Club as well as America Online's "Online Psychohumorist" ™ running his
weekly "Shrink Rap and Group Chat" on AOL/Digital City. See his award-winning, USA
Today Online "HotSite" -- www.stressdoc.com (recently cited as a workplace resource in
a National Public Radio feature on "Bad Bosses"). Mark is also an advisor to The
Bright Side -- www.the-bright-side.org -- a
multi-award-winning mental health resource. Email for his monthly newsletter recently
showcased on List-a-Day.com. For more info on the Doc's "Practice Safe Stress"
programs, email email@example.com or call 202-232-8662.
(c) Mark Gorkin
Shrink Rap Productions