The Stress Doc Letter
Cybernotes from the Online Psychohumorist
FEB 2007, No. I, Sec. I
Fight when you can
Take flight when you must
Flow like a dream
In the Phoenix we trust!
Table of Contents
Shrink Rap: 2006 Articles and Q & As
Love Q & A: When Prozac and Viagra Meet in a "Youthful" Senior
Readers: How to Speak Politically Correct, Even God Enjoys a Good Laugh
Testimonials: Department of State/Family Liaison Office (FLO), DeLeon & Stang,
Heads Up: Damascus, MD Public Library, DLA Piper (VA Law Firm), Pillsbury
Winhrop (DC Law Firm), Federally Employed Women/NOAA
Main Essay: GLIDE-ing into Performance Excellence: Part II -- "Learning to
Love" -- Designing an Archetypal Pathway for "Self"-Discovery
Offerings: Training/Marketing Kit and Books
Overview: Sec. I
1) Shrink Rap: Archive of 2006 Articles and Q & As
2) Love Q & A: I read your discussion on Prozac and found it informative
and revealing. I am taking 30mgs for minor Tourettes...also mild depression due
to an invalid wife with MS..so no sex with another woman for 12 years...I have
someone the last few years...I take Viagra...to get to the problem...sex is
great enjoyment but no ejaculation...I am a young 76....play tournament tennis
and golf...are u impressed?...I am greatly concerned about the absence of
orgasm...any suggestions? Would really appreciate your help.
Overview: Sec. II
1) Main Essay: Designing an Archetypal Pathway for "Self"-Discovery.
As part of his "Performance Excellence" series, the Stress Doc reflects on
"learning to love" along with the stages of creative discovery -- psychological
incubation culminating in an altered state experience, followed by spontaneous
and systematic model building and engagement with the real world. More
specifically, he illuminates the process of transforming a seemingly mystical
moment into, for him, an unprecedented artistic and non-theistic spiritual
undertaking. The intuitive and conscious conception of an archetypal symbol is
both a primal healing progression and a pathway to a deeper, holistic and higher
Self. However, when the irresistible force (personal creative process) meets
immovable object (doctoral program standards) and the tension inexorably
builds…something or someone has to give (or give up). Yet, when fueled by
devotion, a compelling desire to learn and insight into one's genuine voice
(even while wrestling with some grandiose tendencies) it is possible to survive
both the highs of defiance and to surmount the lows of failure. The keys:
listening within as well as learning to respect and reconcile the contradictions
and opposites in one's inner and essential nature.
2006 Articles and Q & As
Click here: 2006 Index
Work Q & A:
Democratizing an Inequitable Work Distribution/Delegation System
Shrink Rap: 12 Tips for Beating Mostly Moderate Clinical Depression
Main Essay: Sea of Tranquility: Dealing with Employee Arrogance &
Work Q & A: When a Boss Enables Tattling on Employees Everyone Suffers
Main Essay: Vital and Creative Functions of Healthy Aggression
Shrink Rap: Finding the Pass and Passion in the Impasse
Main Essay: On Becoming a Wise System
Work Q & A: Rudeness and Unfairness in the Workplace
Main Essay: Six Keys to Building Consensus: Skills, Steps and Strategies
Work Q & A: Conflict Intervention Strategies for Avoiding Workplace
Readers: What popular song or poem best depicts BURNOUT??
Main Essay: Why Being Contrary May Be Cognitive, Cool and Creative
Shrink Rap: Bridging East-West Cultural Differences and Interpersonal
Main Essay: Confessions of a Type A Canoeist or Partnering for Dummies
Shrink Rap: On Becoming More Perceptually Objective, Empathic and
Main Essay: GLIDE-ing into Performance Excellence: Part I
Shrink Rap--I: Program Picture and Testimonials; Fort Hood Herald
Article: "The Stress Doc," speaks to 1st Cavalry Division spouses
Shrink Rap--II: The Stress Doc in the Hood (i.e., Ft. Hood)
Main Essay: The Four "F"s of Holiday Friction
Media: KC newspaper interview examines holiday conflict-reducing
Shrink Rap: When "Less Is More" or The Value of Taming Your "Intimate
Main Essay: GLIDE-ing into Performance Excellence: Part II -- "Loving to
Stress Doc Love Q & A
Subj: Delayed and Delayed
I read your discussion on prozac and found it informative and revealing. I am
taking 30mgs for minor Tourettes...also mild depression due to an invalid
wife with MS..so no sex with another woman for 12 years...I have someone the
last few years...I take Viagra...to get to the problem...sex is great enjoyment
but no ejaculation...I am a young 76....play tournament tennis and golf...are u
impressed?...I am greatly concerned about the absence of orgasm...any
suggestions? Would really appreciate your help.
Sorry for the delay. Not being an MD, I don't know enough about senior
physiology, though I trust your description of being a young 76. I had a 3-4
year period of limited potency and absence of satisfying orgasm, after the
painful breakup of a relationship. During that time I switched meds from Prozac
to Effexor, and it's possible that as I had aged (from when I first started
taking Prozac in my mid 40s) the serotonin was contributing to my reduced sexual
function. I have subsequently switched to Wellburin which is not Serotonin
based. Prozac is all serotonin based. Effexor is a mix of serotonin and
norepinephrine, I believe. You might want to see if you can change to Effexor
or try to reduce the amount of the Prozac.
However, in the last year I have reunited with an old girlfriend, someone who I
am truly learning to love. And, amazingly, much of my potency has returned. So
my conclusion is that I could no longer have truly satisfying sex unless there
was a deep emotional connection. So two questions: how do you feel about your
partner on an intimate level and is there any emotional conflict having two
women in your life, knowing your wife is not having sex, etc.?
I wish you well in this exploration.
Hope this helps. May I use your question (anonymously) as a basis for a Q & A
in my newsletter? Will also place you on my free mostly monthly newsletter
list, sending some start-up stuff. Enjoy!
Mark....thanks for your informative response....just as I thought, your info was
very helpful...especially when you use your own experiences .....certainly is
refreshing to have someone be so open about themselves....you verified my
confidence in writing you...I will try to follow your suggestions....you
absolutely can use my question in your writings....thanks again ...R
Thanks for your prompt and affirming response. Thanks too for giving permission
to anonymously use our exchange. Glad we could both be open and real. Best
wishes on the journey.
Subj: How to Speak Politically Correct
HOW TO SPEAK ABOUT WOMEN AND BE POLITICALLY CORRECT:
1 She is not a "BABE" or a "CHICK" - She is a "BREASTED AMERICAN."
2. She is not "EASY" - She is "HORIZONTALLY ACCESSIBLE."
3. She is not a "DUMB BLONDE" - She is a "LIGHT-HAIRED DETOUR OFF THE
4. She has not "BEEN AROUND" - She is a "PREVIOUSLY-ENJOYED COMPANION."
5 . She does not "NAG" you - She becomes "VERBALLY REPETITIVE."
6. She is not a "TWO-BIT HOOKER" - She is a "LOW COST PROVIDER."
HOW TO SPEAK ABOUT MEN AND BE POLITICALLY CORRECT:
1. He does not have a "BEER GUT" - He has developed a "LIQUID GRAIN STORAGE
2. He is not a "BAD DANCER" - He is "OVERLY CAUCASIAN."
3. He does not "GET LOST ALL THE TIME" - He "INVESTIGATES ALTERNATIVE
4. He is not "BALDING" - He is in "FOLLICLE REGRESSION."
5. He does not act like a "TOTAL ASS" - He develops a case of "RECTAL-CRANIAL
6. It's not his "CRACK" you see hanging out of his pants - It's "REAR CLEAVAGE"
Subj: EVEN GOD ENJOYS A GOOD LAUGH
There were 3 good arguments that Jesus was Black:
1. He called everyone brother .
2. He liked Gospel.
3. He couldn't get a fair trial.
But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was Jewish:
1. He went into His Father's business.
2. He lived at home until he was 33.
3. He was sure his Mother was a virgin and his Mother was sure He was God.
But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was Italian:
1. He talked with His hands.
2. He had wine with His meals.
3. He used olive oil.
But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was a Californian:
1. He never cut His hair.
2. He walked around barefoot all the time.
3. He started a new religion.
But then there were 3 equally good arguments that Jesus was an American Indian:
1. He was at peace with nature.
2. He ate a lot of fish.
3. He talked about the Great Spirit.
But then there were 3 equally good arguments the Jesus was Irish:
1. He never got married.
2. He was always telling stories.
3. He loved green pastures.
But the most compelling evidence of all - 3 proofs that Jesus was a woman:
1. He fed a crowd at a moment's notice when there was no food.
2. He kept trying to get a message across to a bunch of men who just didn't get
3. And even when He was dead, He had to get up because there was work to do.
AMEN and WOMEN
Department of State/Family Liaison Office (FLO)
Jan 25, 2007
I have been meaning to thank you so much for the wonderful and energizing
presentation you gave at the State Department. As we discussed afterward, this
can be a highly stressful environment, and we do tend to take ourselves just a
bit too seriously! It was extremely helpful to have you here to take us through
some ways to creatively reduce our stress, and work together as a team.
Definitely fun AND worthwhile -- what an unusual combination!
Leslie Brant Teixeira
Family Liaison Office (FLO)
Tel: 202-647-4626 Fax: 202-647-1670
DeLeon & Stang, CPAs and Advisors
Jan 17, 2007
Thank you again for your fabulous workshop! Everyone I have spoken with today
thoroughly enjoyed it. It was a good start to our busy season and a good way
for us to further bond with our co-workers in a fun, nonthreatening way,
especially with the "big bosses" in the room. It showed them where some of the
stress points really are during this time of year for us. The drawing exercise
was especially fun to see some of the creativity in the room and the sharing of
ideas and even that we all share some of the same issues and problems across all
departments in the firm.
Director of Administration
DeLeon & Stang, CPAs and Advisors
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Partial list of programs in Jan & Feb. (Testimonials on request.)
1. Damascus, MD Public Library, “Practice Safe Stress” Program
2. DLA Piper (VA Law Firm), "Running on Empty" Program
3. Pillsbury Winhrop (DC Law Firm), "Overcoming Procrastination" Program
4. Federally Employed Women, "Managing Stress and Resolutions" Program
Mark Gorkin, LICSW, "The Stress Doc" ™, is a psychotherapist and
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Burnout & Depression and of The Four Faces of Anger: Transforming Anger,
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